One reason we struggle w/ insecurity: we’re comparing our behind the scenes to everyone else’s highlight reel. Steven Furtick
Seven months ago, we moved into a new home.
My husband came home and said one of his supervisors suggested he host a get-together at our house as a kick-off and team building effort. He immediately quipped, saying “I don’t have a big house. I don’t have much furniture. Have you seen what I drive? It’s a beat-up, 10 year-old Toyota Forerunner. People would not be impressed with our home.”
It’s not that he was opposed to hosting something, but he knew from this supervisor’s request that she assumed we lived in well-off. To an extent, we do. But probably not in a way that was percolating in her mind’s eye.
The fact of the matter is, there’s a tendency in the DC, Maryland and Virginia area to live up to other people’s expectations and to use an old phrase, “Keep up with the Jones’.”
I’ll be honest, that desire sometimes hits me, too. And I fight it. I fight it hard!
I’ve grown to appreciate and seek God’s approval over others. So if someone doesn’t appreciate my house for what it is? It doesn’t matter because it’s beautiful to me. (At least, that’s what I tell myself, even when I only half believe it.)
But I’ll be honest, the suggestion from my husband’s colleague did bring up some insecurities. And I wondered where my confidence truly lies.
Are you an effective witness for Christ online?
Like I said, I struggle with trying to give the appearance that I’ve got it all together and that my house, and my life, is picture perfect. But that wouldn’t be true. And when you think about it, what’s so wrong being imperfect, authentic and honest?
We live during a time where people, even Christians, crave attention, acquiring it through more “likes,” “followers,” and accolades.
When did disciples of Jesus become such attention-seekers and spotlight hoggers? (Is that a word?)
It’s a tricky thing when you’re a Christian, too. Because there’s a temptation to play up your Christiandom. An update might read: “Wow. I’m so humbled to serve the poor today. #servingtheneedy”
Do humble people really need to announce on social networks what they’ve accomplished for the Lord?
I tell you, no. In fact, the Bible offers instructions on how to behave in situations such as this. Check this out:
“Be careful not to practice your righteousness in front of others to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven. So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing… Matt. 6
If Jesus doesn’t want one hand to know what the other hand is doing, how much more would he disapprove of behavior that publicly showcases what are supposed to be humble acts of service?
When is it okay to ‘brag’?
Do you think there’s a way to share about these things without it being borderline or outright boastful? Perhaps.
How about inviting others to join you? What about sharing of a time when you weren’t so focused on other people, and because of Christ, you are able to help others today?
How about including scriptures on why it’s important to serve the poor? How about sharing about those acts of kindness as a way to persuade more people to follow Jesus, not follow you?
Let’s see what the Bible says about this…
But let the one who boasts boast about this:
that they have the understanding to know me,
that I am the Lord, who exercises kindness,
justice and righteousness on earth,
for in these I delight,
declares the Lord. Jeremiah 9:24 NIV
Therefore, as it is written: “Let the one who boasts boast in the Lord.” 1 Corinthians 1:31 NIV
I recently wrote about the work that I’ve put into our little fixer-upper of a house. And when I reflect on that work, it keeps me humble.
It reminds me of what it means to be frugal and wise with the money the Lord has blessed us with. And it reminds me that your house doesn’t necessarily be a masterpiece and impeccably designed in order for it to be a “home.” That what really matters is the presence of love inside those walls.
Similarly, as Christians, we don’t have to be perfect, or appear perfect, to be an effective witness for Christ.
In fact, authenticity and humility should rule our hearts — not the prospect for more likes, followers and high-fives from others, the onlookers and lurkers of the internet (as tempting as they may be).
What about you? How are you an effective witness for Christ on social media and in life in general?
Wisdom’s instruction is to fear the Lord, and humility comes before honor. Proverbs 15:33